Category: Zone BBS Suggestions and Feedback
After I wrote that one board post about one of my exboyfriends and naming his identiy I felt like a dumb person for doing it. In fact some feel that when you do this on the boards or on quick notes you create attention and want pitty and sympathy. Well I can see people's point now. We learn from our mistakes and we try not to repeat them. But over this weekend (Friday or Saturday I believe one of the two) someone on quick notes keeps bringing up their relationship problems. It's ok to do this on MSN, Aim, Skype, Yahoo etc because you're in a room where no one will judge you. Bring it public and people will get irritable or annoyed by it. It's ok to ask for advise and all but trying to cause a war and have people take sides on this community who should side with who is just immature. This happened repeatedly and it kind of bothered me and I came close to hitting ignore on 2 people that night. Alot of people got irritable and annoyed after a while because we couldn't change the subject. When a CL came on and asked that either the person change the subject or take the argument outside the zone the people involved co-operated. When the CL left, one of the people involved tried to reopen the argument in public, then getting graphic at times. Not to mention confusing a few of us. To end this I'd like to make a suggestion for our members. Keep the personal shit in private quick notes, private mail or outside the zone. Some or most of us (if not all) don't want to hear it. I just don't want to see the person or people getting hurt by others who tell them to stop. I understand there's a freedom of speech rule here. But something like this shouldn't be on the zone. I'm one who doesn't like to block people unless I have to and many people on here know that. But as a reminder some on public QNs might not like that kind of information to be public.
hmm sometimes i wish I could delete my own posts....
I agree that would be a great idea, maybe if enough of us suggest this to our CL's, they will adopt this and we could remove our feet from our mouths..smile
lol, they do not allow that...
Too bad it is though... for I should like to remove my feet from my mouth when I have came into realization of what the eejit I was...
aww,
Not desiring pity... "just live and learn"
well that is true sometimes too
well i think people use their own disgression and surely it's up to them what they talk about. I mean if they get hurt it's only their fault.
lol yah you just made the point
I admit that I did it a few times, I'm sorry.
It's ok if you do it once. But the thing that worries me is that when people start pointing fingers at others for relationship problems others might find it annoying. And what really annoys me is when people say to CLs that they'll stop and wait for the CL to leave THEN restart it gets quite old. And some find it entertaining which I find is sick. I just don't like watching others get hurt. Even if they weren't to blaim for the problem to begin with.
I totally agree.
Well what annoys me in public quicknotes too is like when you talk and either people does not answer you or answers someting totally irrelebant to your topic. But I generally hate fights, that is, arguments between people that get out of control.
yeah but blindvi, cos of the "freedom of speech policy, no-one can really stop people from saying whatever they like. even CL's can't, as it's not their site. like I said in my previous post, it's up to the individual if they choose to put themselves out like that with the chance of being hurt. you shouldn't feel bad. they're the ones who choose to do it, as I say. If it's really a problem to some people they can turn quick notes off or block an annoying person.
the thing you have to realise blindvi is that the people that start these kinds of conversations are doing it for the very purpose of gaining attention! so as rdfreak rightly says, don't feel bad about anything you say to them!